When someone you love is struggling with their mental health, you want to help — but it’s hard to know how. Say too much and you might push them away; say too little and you feel useless. Here’s how to show up well.
Start by listening
You don’t need to fix anything. Often the most powerful thing you can do is listen without judgement, and let them know you’re there. Avoid “just pray” or “others have it worse” — instead try “I’m here, and we’ll figure this out together.”
Practical ways to help
- Check in regularly, not just once
- Offer specific help — a meal, a lift, sitting with them
- Learn about what they’re facing — like depression or anxiety
- Gently encourage professional support, and offer to help them find it
Look after yourself too
Supporting someone is draining. You can’t pour from an empty cup — set boundaries and get your own support if you need it.
Encourage professional help
You don’t have to be their therapist. Encouraging them to speak to a professional is one of the kindest things you can do.
Frequently asked questions
What should I not say to someone struggling?
Avoid dismissive lines like “snap out of it” or “others have it worse”. Lead with empathy and presence instead.
How do I encourage someone to get help?
Share your concern gently, without pressure, and offer practical help finding and booking support.
Talk to someone who gets it
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