Everyone talks about the excitement of leaving. Far fewer talk about what comes after you land — the homesickness, the isolation, the strange new systems, and the quiet grief of the life you left behind. If you’ve japa’d and you’re struggling, you’re not alone.
Why settling in is so hard
Relocation is a major life change, and the adjustment can trigger adjustment difficulties, low mood, or depression. You’ve lost your support system and everything familiar, all at once.
Common struggles
- Deep homesickness and loneliness
- Culture shock and feeling like an outsider
- Guilt, or pressure to prove japa was “worth it”
- Financial and immigration stress
How to cope
- Keep an anchor to home — regular calls, familiar food, community groups.
- Build a routine to give new days structure.
- Be patient — adjustment takes months, not days.
- Keep your Nigerian therapist — online therapy travels with you.
You can get support wherever you are
Because Mytherapist.ng is online, you can talk to a licensed Nigerian therapist who understands your background — from anywhere in the world.
Frequently asked questions
Is it normal to feel depressed after relocating?
Yes. Low mood, homesickness, and anxiety are very common after a big move and usually ease with time and support.
Can I keep my Nigerian therapist abroad?
Yes. Online sessions mean you can continue with the same therapist wherever you live.
Talk to someone who gets it
You don’t have to work through this alone. Mytherapist.ng connects you with licensed Nigerian therapists over secure video, audio, or chat — from ₦4,000. Take the free 2-minute check-in, or browse therapists to get started today.
